A couple blogs ago I suggested you become a detective searching for clues to your motivations and feelings of why you have gotten stuck. Journaling this info helped you understand the roots of your stuck feelings.
This time you are a scientist, a detached observer of what happens when you do something.....one thing different. What happens when you trust that a situation will take the perfect form with or without your influence and embrace living in a more relaxed way? What happens when you participate in life but release any expectations or rigid beliefs?
TRUST that all will be well in your life, open up to uncertainty. Whenever you put your FAITH in Spirit/God you grow your divine wisdom within. Embracing uncertainty can be a wonderful time to re-parent your Inner child and help them through the "scary" process by listening and showing compassion along the way. Whenever the little Inner Child within appears fearful, sit quietly and meet him/her in your minds eye and ask what they need and how you can help. Take it slower if you have to.
But you are ready to NOW release your grip on all tasks and trust that your world will not fall apart, things will get done (maybe not like you would do them - maybe better!), those around make take more responsibility and you can watch a miracle bubble up through the unpredictability!
To begin, with in any respectable experiment, you start with one "variable" while keeping the "controls" the same. That way, the results are credible. Pick one thing that you feel comfortable, or at least tolerate doing a little differently. Some little day to day activity at work, dealing with family matters, etc. Make it easy and realistic.
An example might be that you plan your daily commute to be as efficient as possible. But perhaps you decide to go down a different road, take a new route, notice how this fresh perspective changes your view of your day and does the action help you open up to other new things? Another example would be perhaps you are the person who takes care of seemingly every task in the family or office. Delegating a duty to someone that might choose to handle it, or not handle it at all, in a unusual way. I challenge you to open up to unpredictability and chaos. You will still be here, all will be well and in fact it may turn out better than if you had done it.
If you get anxious, simply repeat an affirmation to yourself something like:
I am safe and protected at all times.
I now trust Spirit is creating situations for the highest good of myself and those around me.
Or any other phrase that feels good for you. Remember to make it in the now, simple and positive. Also, as I have mentioned before, make it a morning and evening habit.
The Law of Detachment below by Deepok Chopra inspires the control freak in me.....hope it helps you too. These are his "steps" to detachment.
Today I will commit myself to detachment. I will allow myself and those around me the freedom to be as they are. I will not rigidly impose my idea of how things should be. I will not force solutions on problems, thereby creating new problems. I will participate in everything with detached involvement.
Today I will factor in uncertainty as an essential ingredient of my experience. In my willingness to accept uncertainty, solutions will spontaneously emerge out of the problem, out of the confusion, order and chaos. The more uncertain things seem to be, the more secure I will feel, because uncertainty is my path to freedom. Through the wisdom of uncertainty, I will find my security.
I will step into the field of all possibilities and anticipate the excitement that can occur when I remain open to an infinity of choices. When I step into the field of all possibilities, I will experience all the fun, adventure, magic and mystery of life.
Deepok Chopra
Next time: Opening up to signs around you